How to Get What You Want – Focus on What You Want

Focus on what you want because what you focus on is what you get. Energy flows where attention goes.  If you focus on problems, you’ll get more problems. Reframe the problem and turn it around. When we focus on our problems we’re focusing on what we don’t want. Think about what you do want and focus on that. For example: What is the problem? My boss is a bitch. What don’t you want? I don’t want my boss to be a bitch. What do you want? I want my boss to be nice to me and treat me with respect. This creates a shift in our thoughts and our vibration. You will find that just by shifting your thoughts from what you don’t want, to what you do want, will make you feel better and you will start to manifest what you do want.

It’s also important to avoid complaining. Complaining is focusing on what you what you don’t want. If you complain that your boss is a bitch, not only will she keep being a bitch, but when you get a new boss and / or a new job, the likelihood is that your new boss will also be a bitch, or the male equivalent. The same goes with relationships and pretty much anything in your life. Another way to reframe a situation or person is to think about the good things about it or them.

I used to work with a guy who really used to piss me off. He was always interfering with my work and trying to tell me how to do my job. He made me feel so angry and we were always at loggerheads. One day, after doing an exercise from “Calling in the One” by Katherine Woodward Thomas, I started to look at the situation differently. I thought about this guy and I realized that he had good motives. He loved his job and he wanted to make sure that things were done correctly. From that day forward our relationship improved dramatically.

Another area that people often complain about or worry about is money. I used to always talk about not having any money and guess what? I never had any. It became a self-fulfilling prophecy. Now I think about all the great things I have in my life and say thank you for them. I donate to charity even in months when I have a lower income, because I am prosperous  and  there’s plenty in the universe for everyone. When I pay my bills, I bless them with love and give thanks for having a beautiful flat and lots of money to pay my rent and bills. I have an abundance of wonderful things in my life and I count my blessings.

I often hear people say “I can’t get a job because of the economy.”  Turn that around and whenever you find yourself thinking that, say to yourself “that might be true for some but it doesn’t have to be true for me.”

Exercises:

1)      Think of a problem that you have and ask yourself what you don’t want. Then ask yourself what you do want. Every time  you think about the problem, turn it around and focus on what you do want.

2)      Think of a person or a situation that is bothering you. Think of all the good things that you can about that person or situation.

3)      Give to charity every month, even if it’s only £1.

4)      When you pay your bills, bless them with love and be thankful that you have plenty of money to pay them.

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